In all the excitement of planning a wedding, it’s easy to forget that there are multiple “wedding events” to plan for over the next several months (or years)! Although the rehearsal dinner is often planned by the “in-laws,” it’s rare that a couple has no say in the day! The rehearsal dinner is a critical piece of the wedding planning process because it not only kicks off your celebration but it’s an opportunity to spend more time with your loved ones in a slightly less structured timeline. it’s also a great option for exploring different themes or decors that you may not have ultimately decided on for your wedding day, but you love!
If you’re getting married at The Haight, you’ll be rehearsing here too! To keep things close, we’ve compiled a list of some of our favorite local spots in Elgin to host your rehearsal dinner!
El Patio
Location: Downtown Elgin
Tacos and tequila! This is a fun, upscale Mexican dining experience that is quite the crowd-pleaser!
Elgin Public House
Location: Downtown Elgin
Homey, delicious food in a casual, comfortable setting.
Kubo Sushi & Sake Lounge
Location: Downtown Elgin
If you’re looking for something a little different, this is a great option for Japanese dinner and Sake! The have a sushi forward menu with noodles and salads as well. great for an intimate group that loves sharing (perfect for family style or solo dinner service).
Nick’s Pizza
Location: Elgin
Casual, family-forward Italian Pizzeria with a homey flair! Indoor and outdoor dining options make it a great option year-round and the arcade is perfect for the kids (and kids at heart).
Grumpy Goat
Location: Elgin
Located within the Highlands of Elgin clubhouse, they offer private dining room for up to 40, with additional space options. Delicious, a versatile menu of American fare that works for a variety of dietary preferences.
Jimmy’s Charhouse
Location: Elgin
With a private banquet room and a steak-centric menu, this is a great option for an upscale dining experience!
Here are some FAQs regarding rehearsal dinners to help you know what to do (now that you know the where to do it)!
What is a wedding rehearsal dinner?
A wedding rehearsal dinner is a pre-wedding event that typically takes place the evening before the wedding. It follows the wedding rehearsal, where the couple and their wedding party practice the ceremony. The dinner is an opportunity for close family and friends to gather, relax, and celebrate before the big day.
Who is traditionally invited to the rehearsal dinner?
The guest list usually includes the couple’s immediate family, the wedding party (bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girls, ring bearers), and any other participants in the ceremony. It may also include out-of-town guests, close friends, and officiants.
Who pays for the rehearsal dinner?
Traditionally, the groom’s parents host and pay for the rehearsal dinner. However, modern weddings often see the cost shared between the couple or covered by the bride’s family or the couple themselves.
When should the rehearsal dinner be held?
The rehearsal dinner is typically held the night before the wedding, following the ceremony rehearsal. Some couples choose to hold it two nights before, especially if they have a large number of out-of-town guests arriving the day before the wedding or if there is a wedding at The Haight the night before your wedding (which limits your access to the space). Your wedding rehearsal and rehearsal dinner do not have to be the same day or night.
What should be included in the rehearsal dinner program?
The program typically includes a welcome by the hosts, a meal, toasts or speeches, and sometimes a slideshow or special presentations. Some couples also choose to distribute wedding itineraries or gifts at this time.
Is it necessary to have a rehearsal dinner?
While it’s traditional, a rehearsal dinner is not mandatory. Some couples opt for a more casual gathering or skip the event entirely, especially for smaller or destination weddings. Or full wedding weekend celebrations, where they opt for a wedding welcome party instead.
Can the rehearsal dinner have a theme?
Yes, some couples choose to have a theme for their rehearsal dinner that reflects their personalities or interests. Themes could range from a casual barbecue or luau to a formal black-tie affair.
Is it appropriate to make speeches at the rehearsal dinner?
Yes, it’s common for the hosts, the couple, and close family members or friends to make speeches or toasts at the rehearsal dinner. This is usually more informal than the wedding day speeches.
How long should a rehearsal dinner last?
The dinner typically lasts 2-3 hours, depending on the formality of the event and the number of guests. It’s important to keep the event relaxed and not too long, allowing everyone to rest before the wedding day.
Should there be any activities or entertainment at the rehearsal dinner?
Some couples choose to have light entertainment, such as a slideshow, live music, or even games. However, this is entirely optional and should be kept low-key to maintain a relaxed atmosphere.